tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5472781055373633410.post9177277863842545713..comments2023-05-26T02:49:04.131-07:00Comments on Seeking My Life: Sports Complex, Part 2 of 3Jomamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06368095209754528948noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5472781055373633410.post-34664167512318673802010-06-03T09:23:10.100-07:002010-06-03T09:23:10.100-07:00Its ok, I always walked the line of geek-jock. Al...Its ok, I always walked the line of geek-jock. Almost a dual life...I don't regret it, but its not an easy path. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5472781055373633410.post-67749944912490639012010-05-31T20:51:16.386-07:002010-05-31T20:51:16.386-07:00Thanks, John, and Patois. As former (current?) ge...Thanks, John, and Patois. As former (current?) geeks, we were missing the jock perspective on this. Not surprisingly, it's not all that different. Thanks for the guidance.Jomamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06368095209754528948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5472781055373633410.post-33316857297114808442010-05-31T19:05:34.228-07:002010-05-31T19:05:34.228-07:00I can offer a two prong thought on this being that...I can offer a two prong thought on this being that I am a goalie and I have spent time on the losing and winning ends. <br /><br />As for the goalie aspect: I have coached and played the position, though not in soccer, I can tell you that its very similar mentally. I am one to blame myself for every goal, internally. It not only gave me a thicker skin but also gave me the confidence to know when others were deflecting the blame from themselves. I totally agree with what DH did, talk it out, and ask hat..if anything...could he have done differently. I have told the kids I coached that goalie is tough...its the only position where your mistakes are put up in lights. When Barley can learn to discern "good" goals from "bad" goals it will make life easier on all around. It takes time, and he can always call his cousin if he wants to talk about a tough game.<br /><br />Secondly, I am not one for "taking crap" in the locker room. There is a community in that room that can never be duplicated elsewhere. To this day the thing I miss most is my teammates. That being said, it should be good natured ribbing, and constructive criticism. Coaches don't always calculate every move and every word. I have been cornered by numerous parents that mistook something I did or didn't do as malice. There are bad eggs, but in my experience youth coaches usually do it because they love the game they coach. Talk with them civilly and trust me you will get everywhere with a coach.<br /><br />Sorry I can't offer ANY parenting advice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5472781055373633410.post-49966387102040759682010-05-31T08:13:09.903-07:002010-05-31T08:13:09.903-07:00Oops. My comment was chewed up. I agree with DH in...Oops. My comment was chewed up. I agree with DH in having the coach bring it up.<br /><br />As a woman who was a sports-playing kid, let me say I'd have been mortified if my mom called the other parents. Now, if she'd seen it happen and said something to the kids or the parents in the moment, I would have been more at peace with her intervention.Patois42https://www.blogger.com/profile/07764936858778730692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5472781055373633410.post-34789129956809425282010-05-29T10:48:55.102-07:002010-05-29T10:48:55.102-07:00I agree, our joint unfamiliarity with the world of...I agree, our joint unfamiliarity with the world of the locker room probably makes us a bit more hestitant to intercede here. For all we know, that sort of hassling after a loss is part of the magic if being on a team--that shared motivation. But I think a more important part of team spirit is supporting each other, win or lose. I'll likely contact the coach before the next game and ask him to address the team about that. I'm sure he'll agree it's an important topic for these boys as they progress up through the competitive ranks.DHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084610136566791231noreply@blogger.com